When we learn about ourselves on a deeper level, we discover the person we are meant to be. We can lead ourselves into good situations and relationships. We can lead by example, we can teach others how to lead.
We are all leaders. We lead ourselves by deciding what we'll wear, eat, drink, play, watch, and read. If we're parents, we lead our children and our families.
Being a leader doesn't mean you are going to go into management; it means you want to do the right things for the right people at the right time.
Here's what Vanessa said after just the first class:
After yesterday’s session, I was able to see that I don’t like how I am with my daughter. I move around quickly, always juggling several things, and she is a slow, steady mover. When I don’t see her moving as quickly as I think she should, I start fussing at her to hurry up, go faster, get moving, speed it up, and yet, I can now see that whether I am yelling or not, it always seems to work out. Yesterday evening, while my daughter was eating supper, I wanted to tell her to hurry because we had somewhere to go. It was the perfect time to try what I had learned, which was to observe my beliefs about her. Instead of fussing at her, I left the room and didn’t impose my stress on her. When it was time for us to go, I was so pleased to see that she was ready. In the car, unprompted, she thanked me for not fussing at her to hurry up. That’s like a miracle for us. All I can say is, this stuff works!
Leading is something we all do, every day. It's about being the best leader and person you can be to yourself. And, as you are better to yourself, you'll find you are able to be better to others as well. It's a natural progression.